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By Matthew Fitzgerald Men hate to get rejected by women. There's nothing worse than having your ego smashed to little pieces when the woman of your (wet) dreams turns you down for a date. You really thought she was interested, but somehow you must have misread her signals... From the male point of view, women are often far too subtle and indirect -- or just plain confusing -- when revealing their romantic interest (unless you happen to be really good-looking and loaded with cash, in which case they call you ). And yes, women often give out mixed messages because they're not sure themselves about what's going on inside their heads. So what most guys are looking for is a set of clear signals that a woman is definitely warm for their form. Does this exist? Well, here are a few signs that she probably wants you to ask her out. 1- She's "in your face" All of a sudden, you'll become aware of her presence everywhere -- she "just happens" to show up ...

By Matthew Fitzgerald Men love their freedom. For many guys, the very thought of making a commitment to one woman for the rest of their lives is enough to send them sprinting for the hills. The dreaded "C-word" implies compromise, loss of independence, the sacrifice of sexual variety, and the looming specter of financial devastation. And the statistics bear this out -- the U.S. Census reports that, over the past four decades, the rate of marriage has definitely been on the decrease. According to the National Marriage Project, a study undertaken at Rutgers University, men today are overwhelmingly apprehensive about getting married. Cohabitation -- commitment with an escape hatch -- is on the rise. So what is the explanation for this phenomenon? Just why are men so afraid of commitment these days? Here are a few of the reasons: No more freedom We men are extremely independent by nature. We like to make our own decisions and run our lives by our own rules. We want to do what w...

By Matthew Fitzgerald You're the man -- you've finally worked up the nerve to ask out your potential Miss Right. And there she is, right over there. It's now or never. You take a step in her direction... ... and suddenly your pits are dripping like springtime in a rain forest, your heart is flip-flopping like a dying fish and your stomach is churning out enough acid to melt steel. Chill, dude. You know you can't back down now. You drag your feet to her side. From somewhere, you hear yourself asking those fateful words: "Would you like to go out sometime?" "No." What? She said, "No." You trudge away, eyes on the floor, praying that no one has witnessed your public humiliation. Rejection sucks . Unfortunately, despite all the shrill female demands in our society for "equal rights," the burden of asking for the date still sits squarely on the shoulders of the male. It still remains the guy's responsibility to risk getting his ...

By Matthew Fitzgerald Women can get sex anywhere, any time and any way they want it. The problem for us guys is that women don’t want sex anywhere, any time and any way we want it. For women, sex comes bundled up with an onslaught of dizzying and complicated emotions, most of which they don’t seem to deal with very well. The result? It’s infinitely easier for women to place men into the category of “friends” rather than admit them as lovers. In fact, for a woman, a male friend is the best of both worlds: She can reap all the benefits of having a man around (strength, decision-making, solid advice, logic, common sense, and so on) without the hormone-based entanglements that sex brings to the table. But men are different. Since we aren’t saddled with psychologically crippling emotions, we aren’t burdened with the senselessness of separating friendship from sex. In fact, for us, it’s just the opposite: When a man likes a woman, he naturally wants to express his feelings by drilling he...

The relationship between men and women has always been a love hate relationship . From the time of creation, men and women have been attracted to each other for several reasons, the inborn creative urge being the chief one. This attraction is likely to continue for a long, longtime to come, despite the 'recent' public declaration of sexual relationships among men and among women. However, women find a lot of annoying as well as attractive things in the actions and behavior of men. It would be interesting to find out what women think of as annoying or hate about men. Psychoanalysts have the view that women basically contradict themselves while expressing what they desire and do not desire in men. It is normally held that women like so called strong, silent men. They openly admit that they do not like weak men. This dislike is in the top of the list of women in what they find annoying in men. However, it is also true that women secretly like to have power over the ...

If we consider the history of the institution of marriage, all of us would agree that it started at the time of creation itself. Man and woman are different both biologically and in mental makeup. However, the creation would not continue if man and woman do not come together. The physical and emotional needs unite man and woman and marriages take place. Till the beginning of the twentieth century, joint families and lifetime single marriages were quite prevalent. Divorces were few and far in between. However, things started changing as more and more women took up careers and achieved financial independence. The dependence of women on men declined and even small disagreements were magnified to a large extent that they were considered to be impinging on the individuality. Let us consider the top 15 reasons why couples break up. Desire to be independent. Getting attracted to another person. Infidelity. Physical incompatibility. Less attracted...

It is said that the love of a man for woman could be recognized very easily but it is very difficult to define it. There are no clear-cut formulae to explain love. However, here are a few tips that had been provided by people who are supposed to be knowledgeable in matters of love. The man can't seem to stop talking to you everyday. He is not dating anybody else except you. He starts treating your mother the way he treats his own mother. He starts using possessive words like ‘we’, ‘our’, and ‘us’ more during conversations with you, particularly when he is talking about the future. He is keeping a photo of yours on his desk. He starts keeping your favorite food items in his refrigerator. He bestows top priority to you over his work and other relationships. He keeps saying nice things about you when he talks to his friends. He does all your errands without the least hesitation. He keeps looking at yo...

Getting married is once in a lifetime decision for many people. When people wish to get married, invariably all of them expect a full life together. Very few would think of marriage as a short-term exercise. Hence, it is very much necessary that all aspects of a life together be fully analyzed before tying the knot. Usually men and women tend to have different perspectives about married life. It would be better to have open and honest discussion to sort out the possible future irritants or at least understand them so that some sort of compromise could be arrived at. The reasons that a man looks at while desiring to marry her are innumerous. However, a few of them top the list in order of priority. For most men, the need of a woman in life is necessitated by the motherly love that he had received in his early life. He needs a woman who can show him the same love and who could fulfill his physical and emotional needs . That is why many men look for the same qualities in a w...

by Robert Hetrick, Ph.D. Have you been hurt by violent words? Most of us have. When verbally assaulted, we recoil, and sometimes, we counter attack. We perceive the attack as coming from outside ourselves. But, in truth, the attack also comes from within. It comes from the meanings we add to the speaker's words. Someone once said, "We have met the enemy, and he is us!" When we are hurt, or upset by other's words, we must look to ourselves as "self-abusers." It doesn't feel this way when we are accosted, but give me a couple of minutes to tell you how self-inflicted pain works in this situation. This article seeks to convince you that the ultimate cause of your reaction to other's lack of kindness, is you. And, if you "buy" my pitch, you just might quit wasting time and energy blaming another for your hurt, anger, or sadness when they speak cruelly. Then you will be freed to figure out how you let someone get to you....

by Patricia Pitta Ph.D., A.B.P.P., Family Psychologist, Diplomate in Family Psychology Stop Blaming the "Other" Solve Your Relationship Problems The marital relationship is a tug of war for power and control. When one member of the relationship is more dominant or doesn't permit the expression for the self or the other, the relationship will experience a halt in emotional growth of the individuals and the couple will begin to experience disappointment, fear, and worry. Anger will become the predominant emotion which will envelop the relationship leaving the couple with a sense of utter despair, confusion and just feeling hopeless. At this point, many couples think about leaving the relationship because they just can't understand and work with the dynamics in the relationship and can't tolerate their conflicted feelings. The impulse to run away is paramount, but the reality is you can not run away from yourself. It is essential that you know...

by Christine Longmore Many people subscribe to the thinking that fighting is a normal part of any relationship. The existence of sayings that describe different types of "normal fighting" is proof in itself that we accept fighting as a part of life. Sibling rivalry, lover's quarrels and family disputes are all the result of basic human nature. Assuming this to be true, you might say to yourself, "OK that may be true but where do I draw the line between normal fighting and irreconcilable differences?" What is the difference between a fight and an argument? Can people really agree to disagree? In a perfect world maybe. For most people -- couples in particular -- agreeing to disagree can sometimes be a diplomatic way of describing a stand off. There is hope though. By trying a few of the following basic strategies, you can deal with differences, hurt feelings and other common problems that often lead to fights. The first main ingredient for taking ...

Being lied to by someone you love and felt you could trust is very painful and frustrating. You love your partner, so you find yourself forgiving his/her lies the first time, perhaps the second and third time as well, before you realize you are just involved with a liar. However, because you feel strongly for this person, it is not easy for you to break away, even though you know that is probably what is best for you. You hang on, with hope that things will change and he will not lie to you anymore. You justify staying with him by telling yourself that he is a good person and deep down you know he loves you- and that your relationship is wonderful and perfect- except when he lies. What you need to ask yourself when this happens is: Do you consider a wonderful relationship one in which your partner lies to you? Is being lied to by a liar your idea of love and respect? When you are emotionally involved with someone, it is not always easy to ask and answer these logical que...

While physical attraction may draw you close to a person, and their personality may make you adore them, communication is a key aspect of relationships that cannot be ignored. Miscommunication between couples is one of the main reasons that break-ups occur. In this article, we'll discuss some of the aspects of conversation that you need to pay close attention to in order to ensure that your relationship will be happy and successful. First and foremost, being a good listener is a necessity in a relationship . The more that your loved one understands that you are truly listening to them and appreciating the things that they tell you, the more open that they will be with you when discussing not-so-popular topics. One good way of ensuring a solid line of communication in a relationship is to set aside a ten to twenty minute period once a day to let each other know what's on your mind. By doing this, you can help yourselves to getting possible problems off of your chest before they ...

There's no denying that maintaining a relationship is a lot of work. Almost fifty percent of all marriages end in divorce, and many wonder how people can maintain their relationships over their entire lives. To that end, we've created this article to help showcase some tips that can help you to get through the rough spots in your relationship and keep you happy throughout the duration of your courting. - It's important to keep a light mood in a relationship. While trust and maturity are important to a relationship, it's important to be lighthearted. Relationships are supposed to make us happy; many of us often forget this simple fact and end up getting nothing but grief and stress. Be sure that you can joke with your partner, and that they can poke fun at you. - Try your best not to focus on your differences. If the two of you are in disagreement on a topic, discuss it once and then try to avoid the issue if you're still in conflict. The more differentiation ...

It's as inevitable as it can be - couples fight. No matter how much we tend to believe that a couple could get through life without arguing in a perfect scenario, it's very often not the case. People have many differences, and differences can lead to disagreements. If you follow some simple guidelines for fighting fairly, however, you can ensure that you get through fights without creating worse problems in the relationship. It's important to let your loved one know as soon as you can when a problem starts bothering you. The more you let the issue stew inside of you, the angrier that you will get. When you DO decide to talk about something you've kept inside, you tend to blow up and be really unfair to your loved one. A good guideline for ensuring that you can address the topic fairly is to not argue about anything that occurred 48 hours ago or earlier. Address the issue as soon as you can, and you stand the best chance of resolving the problem. If your loved one won...

Are you having the romantic life you have always wanted…in your imagination ? Welcome to the club that has many members who feel and live exactly the way you do! Romance is always simple and carefree when it is being acted out in our imaginations. We can come up with the most unbelievable and breathtaking ideas and play scenes that make the best romantic movies look amateur. The only catch to all this however, is that they are developed in our fantasies and stay there , without ever actually taking place in our real lives. Why is that? Why is it so easy for us to fantasize about the most amazing romances, but can never find such romances that really exist? Does it just not happen? Is there no such thing? No, there is no such thing as a romantic dream come true…until you create its existence . That’s right, you carry the key that will open the magical door to making all of your romantic dreams come true. What did you expect to find out? That someday an invisible wand will be wav...