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Decide if you are getting married for the right reasons with these helpful tips. Would you like to know if you are ready to get married ? First, ask yourself if you are at the right place in your own life. Examine your motivations for wanting to get married. Don’t compromise because you need financial help, are lonely, or think that marriage will otherwise solve your problems. A spouse can be a source of support and companionship , but choosing the wrong person for you can only perpetuate your troubles. Before you get married, make sure you have built a solid foundation for your relationship with your partner. How well do you know one another? You should be aware of each other’s history, preferences, and lifestyle, and be able to discuss things openly. Ideally, you will have seen the person in a variety of situations and know how they cope and what to expect from them. Find out if you and your partner have the same expectations for your married lives together. Discuss and consid...

How can you know if you're ready to get married? Read on to find out tips and advice. The big day that you dreamed about for years has arrived. The person you love has ask to or agreed to marry you but how does one know if they are really ready to enter into the covenant of marriage? While volumes could be written to address this issue, this article will attempt to generate some thought on a variety of issues that a wise prospective bride or groom should contemplate before entering into the marriage agreement. It is wise for individuals to know themselves well before attempting to blend their lives with the life of another individual. Things that are important to know are what one considers as goals for his/her life. Things like finishing college, having a career, rearing children, taking care of extended family if need be, traveling as well a variety of other aspirations should be contemplated and taken into account when considering marriage. There should be clear communication o...

He may be testing you to find out You've been getting closer with a woman and you're thinking, Hmm… she might be the one. But in the back of your mind an insistent little voice keeps nagging, This is too good to be true. And instant replays of all the mood swings, temper tantrums and unbridled greediness of your past girlfriends flit through your brain. Maybe there have been inklings that all is not sunny in relationship paradise; or maybe you're just feeling a need to tap the brakes a little and tread cautiously — after all, dating is a significant investment of time if you're not headed in the right direction. So before you commit, put her to the test. Women are constantly testing us and constantly evaluating the results, so it's only fair for us to turn the tables. Here are a few tests you can try on for size: Excess baggage Lots of women are the "walking wounded" — they carry around unresolved hurt and anger from past relationships and expect the n...

By Karen Salmansohn Throughout the ages, there’s been one question that has consistently stumped even the wisest of prophets and gurus: “How do you know when it’s love... and how do you know when you should dump the chump?” I say: Don’t waste precious time-ticking-time with the wrong partner! Here’s a list of relationship-clarifying questions to better serve daters who are newly head-over-heels... So you can suss out sooner versus later if you’ve found the love of your life—or if you should run for your life! Good looks fade. But a bad personality is forever. If you took away the physical attraction and hot sex, would you still want to be friends with this person? Does your new partner tell you outright that he or she is not ready to be in a serious relationship? If so, listen up! What you hear is what you get! You need at least one VERY to fall in love. For example, it helps if your honey is VERY smart, or VERY good-looking, VERY caring or VERY funny, etc. Basically, you need to s...

Getting married is once in a lifetime decision for many people. When people wish to get married, invariably all of them expect a full life together. Very few would think of marriage as a short-term exercise. Hence, it is very much necessary that all aspects of a life together be fully analyzed before tying the knot. Usually men and women tend to have different perspectives about married life. It would be better to have open and honest discussion to sort out the possible future irritants or at least understand them so that some sort of compromise could be arrived at. The reasons that a man looks at while desiring to marry her are innumerous. However, a few of them top the list in order of priority. For most men, the need of a woman in life is necessitated by the motherly love that he had received in his early life. He needs a woman who can show him the same love and who could fulfill his physical and emotional needs . That is why many men look for the same qualities in a w...

Contrary to popular belief, most guys want to get married... eventually. It may take us longer to recognize the symptoms of marriageitis , but it's there nonetheless. Sharing our lives with one woman, having steady sex for life and the possibility of kids crosses our minds. Of course, this could all result from your woman's constant hinting at marriage. Hey, it's like Chris Rock says, "Women get married; men surrender." While you're chewing on that, have a look at the top 10 things that should alert you to the fact that you might want to "make an honest woman" out of your current belle. 10. You want to settle down Feeling like the pace of single life is too hectic? Do you look at your single friends as if they're all just running around pointlessly from party to party with no greater ambition than finding their next "lay"? More importantly, have you caught yourself contemplating whether there's something more ? There is, and your gu...

BY ELLEN FEIN AND SHERRIE SCHNEIDER Getting the man you want to propose -- and then turning that proposal into an actual wedding date -- can be a tougher deal to close than a media merger . Of course, if you've been following The Rules (the set of dating guidelines outlined in our book, The Rules: Time Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right , Warner Books, 1995) from the moment you met Mr. Right and he's said he loves you, he will propose -- sometimes in a matter of a few months but usually within 15 months. (He may have his own rules about dating for four seasons before popping the question, and there's nothing wrong with that.) Don't Break These Rules Following The Rules means letting him pursue you -- not seeing him more than two or three times a week, refusing to go away with him on week-long vacations, and not moving in with him or crowding him in any way. If you've done all these things, you've actually helped him fall in lov...

by Sherry Amatenstein Men and marriage -- ever wonder what it takes to get the two together? If you're trying to get your boyfriend to make a commitment, I have good news and bad news. The good news is that you can stop trying to manipulate, sweet-talk or pressure him into proposing. The bad news is that there's nothing you can do to speed up the process. That's not to say it'll never happen. Men fall in love and get married every day. But men have their own biological clocks . When they're ready, they head down the aisle -- but not a moment sooner. In the meantime, it's not possible to convince commitment-phobic guy that you're the best thing that will ever happen to him -- even if you are! Instead, your best bet is looking for someone who doesn't need convincing. The Sex and the City gang once compared a marriage-ready man to a taxi: At a certain point in his life, he becomes ready for commitment. His "available" light goes on and the ne...