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by Lisa Sussman There's an old joke about a wife who nags her husband, "Tell me how you feel." Finally, the husband blurts, "I feel...I feel...like watching television." The awful truth is, most men have no idea how they feel at any given time. Studies show that men use language to establish difference, separateness and independence (exactly the opposite of women, who talk to connect). So demanding that he talk to you is guaranteed to make him squirm and start rambling about whether new Cheerios really are improved. Here are the answers and explanations to his biggest verbal 'Huhs?' (you'll be speaking like a native in no time). Take the cues from the following sections, so that you and your man can finally understand each other: What He Says When You're Dating An at-a-glance guide to his love talk: A slew of research has established that men and women use language in different ways. For women, talk is the glue that holds relationships toget...

Q: When my guy says he "needs space," does that mean he wants to break up? Guy-Answer says: Not necessarily. In fact, it could be a sign of maturity . As we all well know, guys often have a hard time understanding and expressing their feelings. Scientists say that as our species developed, men learned to act first and feel later, handy when fighting mastodons but burdensome here in the new millennium. As these unfelt feelings stack up, your man begins to experience a claustrophobic anxiety that causes him to crave "space." He doesn't want to break up -- he just wants a chance to get in touch with his feelings. Now to be fair, some guys say they need space when they trying to let a woman down easy, so here's how you tell the difference : When your guy says he needs space, let him know that's fine with you, ask him how much he thinks he'll need and if he'd be willing to commit to doing something together once he's had his fill. If he wants to ...