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BY STEPHANIE BOOTH If you're curious about the new dude in your life but know better than to grill him with 20 questions, you're gonna love our sneaky read-him tips . You don't have to date a guy for six months to get the lowdown on who he really is. With the right clues, you can size him up in 10 minutes. "A man's actions ‑- especially the ones you see in unguarded moments when he's not going out of his way to try to impress you (or doesn't realize you're watching) ‑- can speak volumes about his character and personality traits," says Rita Benasutti, Ph.D., a psychotherapist who specializes in couple's issues. To help you decode a guy you've just started seeing, Cosmo called on a team of experts to tell you how to assess his actions and tap into his boyfriend potential, pronto. His Favorite Sport "Solo sportsmen, like runners and swimmers, 1 savor their independence and relish spending a lot of time alone ," says relationship-s...

(After digging through lots of pages, i found this article! Good tips for us ladies--) Don't waste your time dating a dude who may turn out to be a dud. Instead, administer these minitests to your man to ferret out his true colors. If women could effortlessly clue in to men's myriad character deficits, we guys would never succeed at getting a second date. So unfortunately for you, we've gotten pretty good at concealing our personality blemishes -- especially early on in the impress-to-undress game. But I'll let you in on a little secret : There are ways to weed out the hopeless losers before you waste too much of your precious time -- or worse, get too attached . You just need to put your potential partner through a few simple tests that will slyly force him to reveal any unacceptable attributes. If you're lucky, the guy you're currently grooving on will pass with flying colors. And if he doesn't? Well, then you're justified in kicking him to the curb. 1...

by J. Courtney Sullivan My friend Michelle and her on-again-off-again were off. Again. She complained that he just wasn't going to the right lengths to win her back. "I need a big gesture," she said. "I need roses. I need tears. I need Lloyd Dobler on the front lawn with a boom box." Another friend, Laura, had not met anyone even halfway decent in months, and was starting to wonder if her best friend, Tiny Tony ‑- a sweetheart who is unfortunately short, bald and bulbous ‑- might be the guy for her after all. "I've never been attracted to him or anything," she said. "But maybe it's a When Harry Met Sally situation." After almost 15 years as a faithful fan of romantic comedies, I've come to a painful conclusion: The movies we watch to supplement our love lives are actually sabotaging them. A lot of lip service has been paid to the idea that violence in films causes men to be violent in real life. Why isn't anyone calling for w...

(This comes direct from a guy who is about to reveal signs he's about to cheat.) When it comes to cheating, men are king. We cheat at cards, we cheat on our taxes, and far too often, we cheat on our partners. According to the Ashley Madison Agency, 50 to 60 percent of men will engage in an extramarital tryst at some point in their lives. Our reasons are myriad, but the telltale signs of propensity for infidelity are typically the same. Gain insight into your own potential cheating heart by reading the top 10 signs you're about to have an affair. 10. You create a web of excuses and stories Once reticent and quiet, you've suddenly become a better story-teller than Mother-Goose. You never leave the house without an alibi, and you're constantly lying about the women with whom you've been spending time. You haven't done anything yet, but you're clearly preparing yourself for the day when you do. 9. You feel trapped You feel completely ensnared and you're not ...

Little moves that reveal what's bugging him by Nicole Beland So your guy's in a funk, but he won't give you a friggin' clue why. No problem! Dig into our body-lingo lessons to tap into what crawled up his butt. Sometimes you're sure something's bothering your man, but you can't quite put your finger on what the hell it is. And unfortunately, with the exception of American Idol's Simon Cowell, men have difficulty communicating negative feelings. "Men are hardwired to hide vulnerability," says Alon Gratch, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist in New York City and author of If Men Could Talk. "They're encouraged to appear tough on the outside, so they learn to keep their emotions to themselves." Thankfully, there's a better way to find out what's eating at him than just taking a wild guess: You can read his body language. "When a guy's suppressing emotion, it tends to leak out through his hands, face, feet and even his bo...

An excerpt from 180 Telltale Signs Mates Are Cheating and How to Catch Them Think your mate might be having an affair? Find out if he is displaying any of the warning signals described by Raymond B. Green, a private investigator and former police officer, and Marcella Bakur, a psychology professor at Marymount Manhattan College. Here, the 32 emotional signs that he is having an affair : Your mate is more attentive to your needs than usual. This is due to the guilt feelings experienced by the cheater in the early stages of his or her affair. The attention will diminish as the affair continues. Your mate begins buying you gifts -- lots of gifts . These are "Guilt Gifts" purchased because your partner feels guilty about betraying you and showering you with presents makes him or her feel better. Your mate's behavior is causing a gut feeling in you that something isn't right . If this happens, pay attention to your instincts. Ignoring them means you want to blind your...