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by Dr. Bethany Marshall We all want to find a great guy. But let's face it—how many of your exes seemed fantastic at first, only for you to find out later they were Mr. Wrongs? Well, no more bad boys, mama's boys, or anything of the sort! Dr. Bethany Marshall shares her shopping list for a healthy man in this excerpt from her book, Deal Breakers When you first meet a man , whether it's online, at the grocery store, at a bar, at school, or at your job, you should feel that he wants you. It may be conveyed by a look, a touch, a compliment, curiosity, or attention to detail. And it must, within a short amount of time, be conveyed in person-not online, through a text message, or on the phone. And definitely, it should be backed up by his willingness to make a plan and move the relationship forward. If he's not interested enough to call in advance and make a plan, he's not interested enough to invest his emotions in a relationship. Conversely, constant calling, e-mailing...

by Ian Kerner, PhD How familiar does this scenario sound: Girl meets less-than-stellar guy. Girl dates less-than-stellar guy. Girl gets broken up with by less-than-stellar guy, and girl sinks into a horrible funk over losing, quite frankly, a guy who probably wasn't worth her time in the first place. So what's with all the tears? When he's not that into you, who stops to consider that maybe, just maybe, you aren't that into him either? Ian Kerner, PhD, asks this eye-opening question in his book Be Honest ‑- You're Not That into Him Either , and shows you how to raise your standards to find the great love you deserve. Playing It Safe: When You're Only into Guys You're Not Really Into "I tend to find myself in relationships with men I know I'm not that into because it's safe." ‑-Olivia, 31, advertising sales, Atlanta One of the possible scenarios for falling for a man who you were never that into to begin with, or who reeled you in simp...