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Men love women. The way they look, smell, walk and talk are just some of the reasons why we consider them a divine species. Yet we can't live with them, and we certainly can't live without them... ...for the most part anyway, because perfect, they are not. And upon serious analysis, I've discovered the top 10 things women do that drive men to the brink of insanity. 10. Pretend to be virtuous A recurring theme among many women is that they try to place themselves under a "holier than thou" light, never admitting that they fooled around or dividing their number of boyfriends by five. Now, we applaud those ladies who truly are innocent and pure , but the rest should stop trying to water down their past. Women are allowed to have just as much fun as guys, and they should find a man who can appreciate that. 9. Criticize other women Why is it that many women can't make a simple compliment toward another woman? They love to nitpick about everything from weight to...

Love and lust are inextricably intertwined. Lust is ground zero for hormones — it's nature's way of bringing the opposite sexes together to mate. In fact, without lust, it's doubtful that love between a man and a woman would have a chance to prosper at all. The driving force of the sexual imperative bridges the gap between the almost incompatible brain styles of the two sexes. So lust can be seen as one end of a broad continuum, which may or may not culminate in romantic love. And love is the most ennobling of human emotions — transcendental, exalted and capable of engendering emotional states that can make the male of the species "want to be a better man." Men fight wars over lust, but they make homes and families for love. In Love with Lust For men, lust is a heady experience; the brain goes on hold and red-hot surges of testosterone run the show. Lust — like love — is truly blind. This is why, especially at the beginning of a relationship, it can be hard to...

Is your guy friend really just a friend? Are you sure he isn't waiting on the sidelines for the chance to pounce? It's easy to tell! Check out the sneaky tricks guys use to break up your relationship. Become Her Confidant One of the first things you need to do is make a place for yourself in her life; you can't just be the guy she works with or her neighbor. Find common ground and establish some flirtation without directly coming on to her. Without being too obvious, steer the conversation toward problems in her relationship. But bear in mind that you can only chip at cracks that are already there — get her to reveal their problems rather than listing what you think are his major flaws. The main sources of arguments are money, sex, work, housework and children — although if you want to break up a family rather than just a couple, maybe you should think long and hard about the whole affair. Bring up one of these and there will surely be something that she is desperate to v...

These days, it takes a village -- an iVillage, that is -- to help a girl find the guy of her dreams. That's why we're proud to present Best Advice on Finding Mr. Right . Compiled by iVillage staffers, this book is full of your answers to fellow visitors' most frustrating dating questions. Want a sneak peek? In the excerpt below, you'll find solutions to four of the top dating dilemmas of all time. (For more advice, you'll have to read the rest of the book!) "I just had a date that went really well. We had dinner, got drinks and he walked me home. But when we got to my door -- no kiss. I've always thought you are supposed to end a good date with a kiss. Am I wrong?" -- M.C. "I dated a guy once who waited four dates to kiss girls he really liked to make it more special. If you don't get a kiss, he may be old-fashioned. Or he may really like you and he's waiting so it will be special." "At some point in the date, decide whether...

by Brenda Della Casa So, you want a boyfriend. You're sick of the singles scene and ready to move right past "Go" and settle down with someone who will carry you straight into your happily ever after. Well, hold it right there, Miss Antsy-Pants! Before you go tango into the sunset with Mr. Right, you've got to take a few spins around the dating dance floor with a few Mr. Right Nows. Dating different personality types is the most effective way to find out your likes, dislikes and deal breakers. In fact, spending time with the wrong guys — namely these five — can actually make you a better package when Mr. Fabulous comes along. Mr. Nice Romantic Guy He'll show up with flowers, leave cards around your apartment and quote Keats on a whim. Think old-fashioned courtship, where you're being wooed instead of sitting by the phone wondering if he'll call. Celebrity Counterparts: Cary Grant, Johnny Depp as Don Juan DeMarco What He'll Teach You: This a...

In our society, it has become increasingly difficult to turn down a girl who's interested in you without people thinking you're gay or weird. Fortunately, there are two ways to do it without anybody getting the wrong idea. The only problem is that one method is great and the other is terrible. One night, I was at a bar with a buddy of mine and one of his friends from work when two girls started closing in on my boys. So I sat back and observed two very different styles of turning down women. One guy subtly conveyed to one of the girls that he wasn't interested in her, and before long, she got the hint and left with her dignity intact. On the other hand, his coworker went out of his way to be a jerk for no reason, and the girl left humiliated. In case you didn't have this figured out by your first semester in community college, nobody wants to hang with the guy who makes other people feel bad on purpose. The funny, slightly cocky guy? Sure, everybody likes that guy (es...