Should you stay or should you go?
There are vital relationship signs that indicate your relationship is in trouble and it might be better for you, and your partner, if you end it. Here’s how to know.
Toxic disrespect
Putting you down, outrageous flirting that makes you feel uncomfortable and humiliated and hurtful remarks that aren't easily forgotten are signs you partner lacks respect for you. You need to be clear about what you will and will not tolerate from your partner. If your partner does not respect you — it's time to go.
Abuse
Your partner should be there to pick you up when you're down — not put the boot in. If your partner is physically, or emotionally abusive, negative and critical — you don't need to put up with it. And remember that physical abuse is a criminal offence.
No trust
Trust is vital. Some relationships therapists say it's the backbone of a healthy relationship. If you can't believe what your partner is telling you — because they have lied too many times before — your relationship will stagnate and die. You don't want to spend the rest of your life wondering if they are telling the truth. Let them know that if they can't keep their word, then you have only one word for them — "goodbye".
On and off
If you keep splitting up with your boyfriend/girlfriend it's a sign there is something very wrong. Frequent bust-ups, in the early days indicate there is great chemistry, but little else. Try to work on communicating, without exploding. If, after persistent effort, nothing is changing and the lows outweigh the highs, it may be time to move on.
