Are You Ready for Marriage?


Decide if you are getting married for the right reasons with these helpful tips.


Would you like to know if you are ready to get married? First, ask yourself if you are at the right place in your own life. Examine your motivations for wanting to get married. Don’t compromise because you need financial help, are lonely, or think that marriage will otherwise solve your problems. A spouse can be a source of support and companionship, but choosing the wrong person for you can only perpetuate your troubles.

Before you get married, make sure you have built a solid foundation for your relationship with your partner. How well do you know one another? You should be aware of each other’s history, preferences, and lifestyle, and be able to discuss things openly. Ideally, you will have seen the person in a variety of situations and know how they cope and what to expect from them. Find out if you and your partner have the same expectations for your married lives together.

Discuss and consider your expectations for family, social and religious attendance, and household organization and finances.

1.) If one or both of you have a young child or children, consider their needs and happiness carefully. How prepared are each of you be in the children’s lives? Will this be the right situation and best environment for them? Remember that children are dependent upon their parents and that you are setting an example for them in everything you do. Whether the two of you have previous children or not, you should also discuss the possibility of having children together in the future. You may not be ready to plan on having children or make a choice not to have children, but it should still be discussed in order to get an idea of what might lie ahead. You should also meet each other’s families and find out what kind of time and involvement will be expected from you in the future. Will your in-laws be insulted if you don’t join them every Sunday for dinner? Will your husband feel neglected and complain about the bill if you phone your sister daily?

2.) Time spent with each other’s families is one concern regarding socialization, but there are also other factors. What activities will you do together and what activities will you do separately? It is important to be able to make time for one another without giving up the independence you both enjoy. Do your religious affiliations differ? Religion is a strong belief for many people and one that has to be heartfelt, so it is crucial that you be able to respect each other’s beliefs.

3.) What resources and financial obligations do the two of you have? How will the two of you pay bills, keep bank accounts, earn money, and choose how to spend? While money is certainly not as important as love, it can be a major source of tension between couples and is an important element in planning a future together. In addition, consider what responsibilities each of you will have within the household.

Although there is no surefire way to determine if marriage is right for you, considering the above concerns carefully can help you make an informed decision. Decide whether you are ready to head to the altar or if youneed to spend some time working on yourself and your relationship.

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