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Q: When my guy says he "needs space," does that mean he wants to break up? Guy-Answer says: Not necessarily. In fact, it could be a sign of maturity . As we all well know, guys often have a hard time understanding and expressing their feelings. Scientists say that as our species developed, men learned to act first and feel later, handy when fighting mastodons but burdensome here in the new millennium. As these unfelt feelings stack up, your man begins to experience a claustrophobic anxiety that causes him to crave "space." He doesn't want to break up -- he just wants a chance to get in touch with his feelings. Now to be fair, some guys say they need space when they trying to let a woman down easy, so here's how you tell the difference : When your guy says he needs space, let him know that's fine with you, ask him how much he thinks he'll need and if he'd be willing to commit to doing something together once he's had his fill. If he wants to ...

BY TIM DOWLING Confront the average man with the prospect of a serious emotional discussion and he'll take it as a signal to begin immediate evasive action -- by starting an argument, staring blankly at the television, or perhaps faking a brain hemorrhage. Men regard emotional self-exploration as both risky and unnecessary . It's not so much a case of "If it ain't broke, don't fix it" as "Do not remove back cover. Danger of electric shock." So how do you coax a man into opening up and speaking candidly? There are no easy answers, but below are some ideas worth trying before you resort to communicating with hand puppets. 1. Ease into it. Most women's attempts at heart-to-hearts fall apart with the first sentence because they almost invariably lead with that conversational bomb threat, "We need to talk." (Even worse is the oft-tossed "Can I ask you something?") Men tend to panic in situations like this, and when you tell him ...

BY ALLISON FABIAN Don't declare war every time your man messes up -- if you're into him long-term, here's how (and when) to pick a fight. "Constantly riding your mate will put your entire relationship at risk," warns Sam Horn, author of Tongue Fu! How to Deflect, Disarm, and Defuse Any Verbal Conflict (St. Martin's). "The key is to strike a balance between the battles you choose to fight and those you choose to let go." Ask yourself these six key questions when determining which conflicts are worth waging war over. 1. What's really bugging you? He shows up for dinner at your place an hour late because his basketball game went into overtime, and then he spends 10 minutes bragging that his jump shots would have made Michael Jordan slink off the court in shame. Meanwhile, the only shot you're thinking about is the one you'd like to take at him. Hold it just a second! Although he should have called and he still hasn't apologized, you need...

(straight from de guy-----) Considering we've already figured out the lies that women tell, I've decided that it's time for a rebuttal. After all, we aren't saints by any means ‑- we certainly tend to twist the truth in order to protect our women, make them happy and place our own hides in a better light. Sometimes, one might say, lying is necessary , but other times, we might be better off just admitting the truth. You can try to justify your lies by convincing yourself that you're simply optimizing your truth management skills, but at the end of the day, you know deep down inside that you've been keeping the truth neatly tucked away. Here are 10 of the many lies men opt to tell. 10. No, you don't look fat The following situation is familiar to most guys in relationships: You and your girlfriend are preparing for a night out and, as you wait for her to finish up, she comes out of the bedroom and asks, "Do I look fat in this?" The best answer I h...

by Sherry Amatenstein Men and marriage -- ever wonder what it takes to get the two together? If you're trying to get your boyfriend to make a commitment, I have good news and bad news. The good news is that you can stop trying to manipulate, sweet-talk or pressure him into proposing. The bad news is that there's nothing you can do to speed up the process. That's not to say it'll never happen. Men fall in love and get married every day. But men have their own biological clocks . When they're ready, they head down the aisle -- but not a moment sooner. In the meantime, it's not possible to convince commitment-phobic guy that you're the best thing that will ever happen to him -- even if you are! Instead, your best bet is looking for someone who doesn't need convincing. The Sex and the City gang once compared a marriage-ready man to a taxi: At a certain point in his life, he becomes ready for commitment. His "available" light goes on and the ne...

(straight from the his side---and ladies, this is good for your knowledge) For as long as there have been men and women, there have been lots of dating rituals. Being the sly hunters we are, men have built up a reservoir of knowledge and cunning over the millennia on how to successfully woo the ladies over the first few weeks of a courtship. There are many fish in the sea, and there are many baiting procedures you can use to reel them in. And though many women may be aware of some of our strategies, they surely don't know of all of them. Let's keep it that way, gentlemen. Keep these timeless secret dating tips under your hat and enjoy the learning process. 10. Wait three days before calling back The idea behind this dating rule of thumb is to make sure that your new squeeze doesn't think you're desperate to see her. And it's become a golden-rule because it often works. Many women know the dating game, and want to see if their new man can play it. Prove that you ca...

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